Works by
David Deida
(Writer)
[1958 - ]

Audio

• The Way of the Superior Man: The Teaching Sessions (2005)
  It’s time to evolve beyond the macho jerk ideal, all spine and no heart," teaches David Deida. "It is also time to evolve beyond the sensitive and caring wimp ideal, all heart and no spine."
  
  So begins The Way of the Superior Man, a spiritual guide for today’s man in search of the secrets to success in career, family, relationships, and intimacy—now available on audio for the first time in this original author adaptation. In his own words, this internationally renowned expert on sexual spirituality offers a complete 4-CD course filled with straightforward advice, empowering skills, body practices, and more to help listeners, male and female alike, realize a life of fulfillment, immediately and without compromise.

• Enlightened Sex: Finding Freedom & Fullness Through Sexual Union (2005)
  On Enlightened Sex, David presents his first full-length audio curriculum for transforming your lovemaking. In this seven-hour workshop on the art of engaged love, you are invited to explore.   (6-CD Audio Intensive Course)

• Living Sacred Intimacy (2002)
  CD

• Kinks, Consciousness and the Plumber (1995)
  Cassette
  David Deida speaks on the embodiment of spiritual practice in love and intimacy.

Books

• Instant Enlightenment: Fast, Deep, and Sexy (2007)
  Does enlightenment have a dark side? It does, explains David Deida, "but instead of closing to what seems unloving, we can learn to open as what we would rather avoid."
  
  In Instant Enlightenment, this maverick author and teacher offers a "rude awakening" through a collection of daring exercises and practices intended to provoke, challenge, and immediately reveal the ever-present "love that lives all things." What's the filthiest thing you can say that still feels like, "I love you"? Can you "wear" the mood and shape of everyone and everything around you without fear or reservation? Which imagined action--sleeping, sexing, or dying to save another--most feels like liberation and unbound love?
  
  These are just some of the unconventional questions raised in Instant Enlightenment. Each pithy chapter encourages readers to blast the light of consciousness on the taboos we hide in shadow, from our ideas about sex and money to emotions and spirituality. "The secret to gifting your life's deepest purpose is to open through what you most resist, so your love's mission can bless the world," writes David Deida. Instant Enlightenment will surprise and possibly offend you--but it will lead you "fast and suddenly" to the realization of the sacred entirety of your experience.

• The Enlightened Sex Manual: Sexual Skills for the Superior Lover (2007)
  The secret to enlightenment and great sex is revealed to be one and the same in this groundbreaking manual for adventurous lovers. David Deida was trained for decades in the art of spiritual and sexual awakening. Now he presents the ultimate collection of skills for opening to the physical, emotional, and spiritual rewards of intimate embrace. In paperback for the first time, The Enlightened Sex Manual teaches you how to transform simple "skin friction" into the depths and embodiment of ecstasy, how to develop sexual abilities as gifts of heart rapture and bodily surrender, how to achieve the principal types of orgasm--and all their varieties--and much more.

• Blue Truth: A Spiritual Guide to Life & Death and Love & Sex (2006)
  You are deeper than your life shows, and you know it. You are more loving than your relationships allow, more brilliant than your career suggests. In your secret depth of being, you are infinite, creative, boundless—and utterly unable to press your full glory into the world. Or so it seems. In Blue Truth, internationally acclaimed teacher David Deida presents a treasury of insights for uncovering your true heart of purpose, passion, and unquenchable love. In Part One, Deida shows you how to "open as the entirety of the moment, feeling as deep inside and as far outside as you can, for as long as now opens." In Part Two, he reveals how to walk this path in the wilderness of intimate relationship, illuminating "the art and play of sexual gifting" and how to expertly navigate the tangle of anger, jealousy, fear, and lust. "Knowing the truth is fairly useless; feeling it is profound; living it makes all the difference," teaches David Deida. With Blue Truth, you have an unprecedented guide for living your own deep truth, and awakening "as the bare openness you are, in the free offering of love to all."

• The Way of the Superior Lover (2007)
  Spiral bound.

• The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire (1997, 2006)
  What is your true purpose in life? What do women really want? What makes a good lover? If you're a man reading this, you've undoubtedly asked yourself these questions-but you may not have had much luck answering them. Until now.
  
  In The Way of the Superior Man, David Deida explores the most important issues in men's lives-from career and family to women and intimacy to love and spirituality-to offer a practical guidebook for living a masculine life of integrity, authenticity, and freedom. Join this bestselling author and internationally renowned expert on sexual spirituality for straightforward advice, empowering skills, body practices, and more to help you realize a life of fulfillment, immediately and without compromise. "It is time to evolve beyond the macho jerk ideal, all spine and no heart," writes David Deida.  "It is also time to evolve beyond the sensitive and caring wimp ideal, all heart and no spine."
  
  The Way of the Superior Man presents the ultimate challenge-and reward-for today's man: to discover the "unity of heart and spine" through the full expression of consciousness and love in the infinite openness of the present moment.

• Dear Lover: A Woman's Guide to Enjoying Love's Deepest Bliss (2002, 2006)
  Every woman knows the fairy tale: find the right man, give him what he wants and needs, and he’ll love you forever. But when the myth you’ve been asked to believe fails to deliver—when you sense you’ve been settling for far less than you know in your heart is possible—how do you attract and keep a man capable of meeting what you most passionately yearn for? In Dear Lover: A Woman’s Guide to Men, Sex, and Love’s Deepest Bliss, David Deida explores every aspect of the feminine practice of spiritual intimacy, from sexuality and lovemaking to family and career to emotions, trust, and commitment. Written as a collection of letters from a man to his "dear lover," here is this internationally acclaimed writer’s invitation to practice love as a living art, as you discover:

  • Why your man is always your choice—and how to pick the man of deep integrity who will satisfy the needs of your body, heart, and spirit

  • "Sexual essence" and the three stages of loving: how to understand your fluctuating capacity to experience divine connection with another

  • Knowing when to end a relationship and how to deal with the "him-shaped void" your absent man leaves behind

  • Daily exercises to help you and your partner move from separation to openness in two-bodied devotional trust Ultimately, what every woman wants is to give and receive love fully. Whether you’re partnered or alone, Dear Lover reveals that "your love is the same love that yearns to open at everybody’s heart. You will attract and inspire a man as willing and able to open as you are. Constant yearning is the call to open and give yourself to all as love’s offering."

• Finding God Through Sex: Awakening the One of Spirit Through the Two of Flesh (2002, 2005)
  Finding God Through Sex is an advanced and unprecedented guide to living intimate relationship as a deep spiritual practice. How do you stay open during sex or navigate your partners needs or moods?

• Wild Nights: Conversations with Mykonos about Passionate Love, Extraordinary Sex, and How to Open to God (2000, 2005)
  Meet Mykonos: scurrilous madman—and voice of truth. Wild Nights presents David Deida’s remarkable account of his days with the unconventional teacher who revealed to him the deeper wisdom of the erotic path to the divine.
  
  From our very first encounter to the "burden of bliss" that is his parting gift, Mykonos challenges our understanding of what makes a spiritual life. Brutally candid, he offers his teaching to anyone ready to listen, with an uncanny ability to see into the hearts and minds of his students better than they can their own.
  
  Charged with provocative scenes of unbridled passion and play, Wild Nights explodes with spiritual insights into our choice to "open as love, or close and suffer" … yogic sexual techniques including circular breathing and expanding feeling beyond the self and into the heart of a lover … and why, for some, full sexual expression is a requirement of spiritual maturation. For its honest depiction of the spiritual teacher and student relationship—and the questions it demands we ask about our own sexuality—Wild Nights proclaims David Deida a guiding light in the often cloudy realm of sex and spirit.

• Naked Buddhism: 39 Ways to Free Your Heart and Awaken to Now (2002)

• Waiting to Love: Essays on Life After Spirituality (2001)
  "Waiting to Love is David Deida's most challenging book yet. These essays heartfully expose the misunderstanding commonly encountered on the spiritual path that awakening is always about feeling good. True freedom is the art of relaxing right now, surrendering open to the present moment and all that it may contain -- this is the fire of real love, spontaneous liberation, and lasting transformation. Dive into the flames with Deida and find out who you really are." -- from the back cover

• The Red Realm Adventures in Sexual Spirituality (1999)

• It's A Guy Thing : An Owner's Manual for Women (1997)
  In a must-have book that puts male behavior under the microscope, noted relationship expert David Deida answers women's most frequently asked questions about men and why they act the way they do. It's a Guy Thing includes chapters on sex, work, relationships, and communication.

• Woman's Love Man's Freedom: Two Sexual Paths One Spiritual Bliss (1997)

• Intimate Communion: Awakening Your Sexual Essence (1993, 1995)
  To truly understand your intimate relationships, you must read this book! David Deida, internationally known for his work in personal growth and intimate relationships, shares the deep understandings and effective techniques that he has refined through his 20 years of consultation, research and spiritual practice. Learn how to keep your relationships growing--beyond the sexually neutralized roles so typical of today--and create a relationship that is spiritually erotic, sexually deep and passionately committed to love.

• The Nuts & Bolts of Men: A Woman's Guide to Understanding the Masculine Essence (1993)

• Trust Love: 166 Answers to Your Real Questions about Men and Women (1993)

Video/DVD

• Function, Flow, & Glow: The Art of Sexual Yoga  (2005)
  David Deida’s first DVD, Function, Flow, & Glow: The Art of Sexual Yoga was recorded live by students at Ken Wilber’s Integral Institute in February 2005.
  
  This Integral Institute student production is the only video recording made of David Deida in the last several years and is full of his latest insights, musings, and explorations.
  
  In this rare video release David Deida goes deep into the meaning of sexuality as a living art and practical yoga. Deida covers a wide range of related topics such as:

  • The crucial differences between the practices of therapy, yoga, and spiritual disciplines

  • How to skillfully channel bodily pleasure, in yourself and in your partner

  • The relation of masculine and feminine, as David uses those terms, to Ken Wilber’s Integral model

  • The yogic art of courtship–authentic relating to a new romantic partner

  • What to do with yearning–for a man, a woman, or the Kosmos

  And much more!

• Spirit Sex Love (David Deida Recorded Live
  (Date?)
  VHS